Yesterrday i posted a podcast of “My perfect Man”, if you haven’t already gone and listened to it go on over and take a boo. However i decided to post the written version as well just incase some people don’t feel like listening to my voice for 6 minutes.
I actually don’t think my standards are high at all, the world as has come to sad, sad place where everyone just settles.That’s not for me. I wont settle until my perfect man comes along to me.
I’ve always been a hopeless romantic; I think the first time was when I watched titanic way back when I was like 9 years old. I know crazy right? To think a nine-year-old thought of romance, but I did from then on I would read romance novels and watch romance movies.
Which leads me to now.
Almost 20 and the hopeless romantic still lives within hoping that perfect someone will bump me on the street or ask what book I’m reading at a cute coffee shop, just like in the movies.
I’m not saying my next date will lead to the one, no but one-night stands aren’t my style, and I can’t just justify going on a date with a any guy just because.
Hopefully, my relationship when it does come will grow with any guy who’s worth the investment of my time. Which sadly no man I’ve met stays past the first date, they invest their time for one night, and everything goes swell. Then BAM. Its ghost town.
Dare I say I’ve never made it to the second date with anyone?
My friends and family continuously will tell me, “You don’t need to look for someone perfect. You just need to someone who will give you some intimacy and not call you back tomorrow.”
Or the big one “YOURE TO PICKY”
I disagree. Look the guy doesn’t have to be perfect, but he has to be perfect for me. And I’m not picky at all; I just have self-respect and standards, which over time everyone, deemed as unacceptable.
I bet you’re all wondering wow this chick has never even made it to the second date? Whoa that’s crazy that’s ratchet. Its not. Look what I’ve came to realize is that men today cant handle strong woman, ok there’s some but not many around me. They run away scared.
And sorry but I’m not into chasing people especially men around the planet just for some affection, my perfect man is going to give me affection when I don’t even ask for it.
My perfect man yes man not boy because boys have to learn respect for women.
My perfect man won’t hesitate about anything; he’ll keep it straight and to the point always even though he knows sometimes that may hurt me. From what I’ve learned is that if your partner can’t tell you when you’re being a bitch and you cant tell them when their being a complete dick your relationship isn’t strong at all.
My perfect man will respect me enough to give me girl time and I’ll do the same for him wit his Bro time. It’s only fair and honestly space is good.
My perfect man will understand how lucky he truly is, he wont play these games and the quote “you don’t know what you’ve got till its not gone” wont come into play because he should know what he has.
My perfect man is mature enough to face commitment. Look I’m not asking for marriage, kids and sweet little home in Alabama. No what I’m asking for is commitment to me and to the relationship. If you’re going to cheat break up with me or be single. It’s that simple.
My perfect man will understand how much he means to me without having to ask. He should know and if doesn’t then clearly he’s not invested enough or lacks trust.
My perfect man, dare I say will be afraid of losing me. You know like those moments in movies where the girl will leave and the boy is heartbroken and goes crazy until she speaks to him again. Yeah that’s what I want. I get it you’re a man, you don’t cry but lets be real here, if you’re upset when your Xbox dies you better be upset when I fucking leave, if they don’t get upset well truly the relationship wasn’t what I thought.
My perfect will have good hygiene. If I have to shave my legs and whatever else you do as well.
My perfect man will live for adventure. Not saying we have to go hiking or backpacking across Europe this very second. What I’m saying is that I want someone who is willing to get ice cream at 3am just to sit up and watch movies with me.
My perfect man will be a bad boy at heart. Sorry I love the good guys but every guy has a bit of bad boy in them. There my weakness I like the leather jackets the motorbikes, the man bun the tattoos sue me.
My perfect man will have a smile that love. I’m big on smiles and the whole face in general. Ok? Sometimes it’s about the looks.
My perfect will enjoy working out and hitting the gym or come running with me. I like guys who want to live a nice healthy lifestyle sue me. But don’t make the gym your entire life.
My perfect man will like to cook. Hey I get it, its not everyone’s forte but my perfect guy yes he’ll enjoy the act of cooking and eating.
My perfect man Wont be afraid to go after what he wants.
I always get asked, “What’s your type?”
That’s my type the guy who isn’t afraid to go after what he wants in life.
And finally my perfect man will be happy, he’ll want to make me happy the relationship a happy environment. I get it all couples fight here and there but that’s not what the whole relationship should or what you always talk about to girl friends at brunch.
You should always want to talk positive of your significant other. Always.
SO in the end I don’t think my standards are high at all. Sure I may have never been in a solid relationship before which get thrown in face a lot. But that’s doesn’t mean I know any less. In fact sometimes I think I know more than my friends are in them, because I’ve seen all what happens and know exactly what I want.
Don’t settle and this is for both women and men. STOP settling go after what you truly want, not what just looks good.
Have a fabulous Sunday and a great week, i’ll try to post something this week but i have two photoshoots, homework and short film I’m filing super excited!