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My Perfect Man : Written Edition

Hey Beauties,

Yesterrday i posted a podcast of “My perfect Man”, if you haven’t already gone and listened to it go on over and take a boo. However i decided to post the written version as well just incase some people don’t feel like listening to my voice for 6 minutes.

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I actually don’t think my standards are high at all, the world as has come to sad, sad place where everyone just settles.That’s not for me. I wont settle until my perfect man comes along to me.

I’ve always been a hopeless romantic; I think the first time was when I watched titanic way back when I was like 9 years old. I know crazy right? To think a nine-year-old thought of romance, but I did from then on I would read romance novels and watch romance movies.

Which leads me to now.

Almost 20 and the hopeless romantic still lives within hoping that perfect someone will bump me on the street or ask what book I’m reading at a cute coffee shop, just like in the movies.

I’m not saying my next date will lead to the one, no but one-night stands aren’t my style, and I can’t just justify going on a date with a any guy just because.

Hopefully, my relationship when it does come will grow with any guy who’s worth the investment of my time. Which sadly no man I’ve met stays past the first date, they invest their time for one night, and everything goes swell. Then BAM. Its ghost town.

Dare I say I’ve never made it to the second date with anyone?

My friends and family continuously will tell me, “You don’t need to look for someone perfect. You just need to someone who will give you some intimacy and not call you back tomorrow.”

Or the big one “YOURE TO PICKY”

I disagree. Look the guy doesn’t have to be perfect, but he has to be perfect for me. And I’m not picky at all; I just have self-respect and standards, which over time everyone, deemed as unacceptable.

I bet you’re all wondering wow this chick has never even made it to the second date? Whoa that’s crazy that’s ratchet. Its not. Look what I’ve came to realize is that men today cant handle strong woman, ok there’s some but not many around me. They run away scared.

And sorry but I’m not into chasing people especially men around the planet just for some affection, my perfect man is going to give me affection when I don’t even ask for it.

My perfect man yes man not boy because boys have to learn respect for women.

My perfect man won’t hesitate about anything; he’ll keep it straight and to the point always even though he knows sometimes that may hurt me. From what I’ve learned is that if your partner can’t tell you when you’re being a bitch and you cant tell them when their being a complete dick your relationship isn’t strong at all.

My perfect man will respect me enough to give me girl time and I’ll do the same for him wit his Bro time. It’s only fair and honestly space is good.

My perfect man will understand how lucky he truly is, he wont play these games and the quote “you don’t know what you’ve got till its not gone” wont come into play because he should know what he has.

My perfect man is mature enough to face commitment. Look I’m not asking for marriage, kids and sweet little home in Alabama. No what I’m asking for is commitment to me and to the relationship. If you’re going to cheat break up with me or be single. It’s that simple.

My perfect man will understand how much he means to me without having to ask. He should know and if doesn’t then clearly he’s not invested enough or lacks trust.

My perfect man, dare I say will be afraid of losing me. You know like those moments in movies where the girl will leave and the boy is heartbroken and goes crazy until she speaks to him again. Yeah that’s what I want. I get it you’re a man, you don’t cry but lets be real here, if you’re upset when your Xbox dies you better be upset when I fucking leave, if they don’t get upset well truly the relationship wasn’t what I thought.

My perfect will have good hygiene. If I have to shave my legs and whatever else you do as well.

My perfect man will live for adventure. Not saying we have to go hiking or backpacking across Europe this very second. What I’m saying is that I want someone who is willing to get ice cream at 3am just to sit up and watch movies with me.

My perfect man will be a bad boy at heart. Sorry I love the good guys but every guy has a bit of bad boy in them. There my weakness I like the leather jackets the motorbikes, the man bun the tattoos sue me.

My perfect man will have a smile that love. I’m big on smiles and the whole face in general. Ok? Sometimes it’s about the looks.

My perfect will enjoy working out and hitting the gym or come running with me. I like guys who want to live a nice healthy lifestyle sue me. But don’t make the gym your entire life.

My perfect man will like to cook. Hey I get it, its not everyone’s forte but my perfect guy yes he’ll enjoy the act of cooking and eating.

My perfect man Wont be afraid to go after what he wants.

I always get asked, “What’s your type?”

That’s my type the guy who isn’t afraid to go after what he wants in life.

And finally my perfect man will be happy, he’ll want to make me happy the relationship a happy environment. I get it all couples fight here and there but that’s not what the whole relationship should or what you always talk about to girl friends at brunch.

You should always want to talk positive of your significant other. Always.

SO in the end I don’t think my standards are high at all. Sure I may have never been in a solid relationship before which get thrown in face a lot. But that’s doesn’t mean I know any less. In fact sometimes I think I know more than my friends are in them, because I’ve seen all what happens and know exactly what I want.

Don’t settle and this is for both women and men. STOP settling go after what you truly want, not what just looks good.

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Have a fabulous Sunday and a great week, i’ll try to post something this week but i have two photoshoots, homework and short film I’m filing super excited!

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

I can’t believe I’ve missed two days part 2: Stop being Fake, Just be Real

Hey all,

So this is part two of my missed day series haha *laughs*

When it comes to drama, i am the master of it. Somehow drama always tends to find its way near me and honestly id rather it not. When i was younger picking the side of the most right friend in the fight was cool. i figured it was normal to “pick sides” but now that I’m much older ok “young woman” drama is dare i say useless?

I mean what are you accomplishing by being fake to someone, causing sad drama, where its not even needed. I often laugh at the drama that finds me because its just so ridiculous. I guess you could say that i have a very “care free” attitude and just go with the flow. why on earth would i make myself try or do anything i don’t want, thats simply just going to make me miserable and everyone else around me unhappy. Thats exactly what drama does, it causes tension.

When i was in high school.. ah yes the dreaded drama filled high school days weren’t they the best? *laughs* anyway back to business in high school drama never happened until the glorious grades 11-12which are supposed to be the best years ever.. they were and they weren’t. I dropped a friend those years only to reconnect with her this year yes 2015, thats 2 years without really speaking due to a her then current boyfriend because he was an idiot and didn’t like my opinion . she chose him over the one who stayed up for hours on end on the phone with her. But we put the past behind us and are now talking once again which is nice, sometimes you gotta let things go and if they come back it means it was yours all along.

Grade 12 was a good year in the end, i became good friends with the boy i once liked and confessed to over Facebook the summer before yea that story is a long one awaiting for another day.

In the end during my high school i was a very introverted person, but the drama with my friends boyfriend turned me into a bitch, and by bitch i mean someone who speaks their mind without a care. I became the intimating chick that no guy except for my one friend (the guy i used to like lets call him (Leo)) and my other friend  which is now one of my best friend boyfriend. And thus lead to the chronic bitchface. dun dun dun..

Now that w’eve cleared as to how i even turned from a shy girl to an intimidating girl, lets face the fact of fake people. I’ve never been a fan, i believe if you hate, dislike, loathe, want to throw a chair at a person, you should tell them to their face and honestly it’s not that hard. What exactly are you accomplishing by bitching about it in a circle of closed minded friends? nothing thats what your accomplishing. What you’re doing is proving to others that your life is so pathetic that you must look upon someone else life and put them down. I mean are you that bored?  just say it in the open, make it known .. move on. cut the tension. Be REAL.

Noone should really hate anyone being nice and real saves so much headache please click the link to (iisuperwomanii) video on “lame things people should stop doing”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKypOmBCLWQ&list=PLuBXqtS2jaLPopv899QwFphiirmD_XWdq&index=7

sadly im guilty of a few things here haha aren’t we all?

Anyway in the end, just be real with people, stop hiding behind a screen and whispers and say what you want to say. Be real, nice and stay awesome. Make sure to Love you and others will to.

Thats all for now beauties.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie