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‘Cause you know I love the players, And you love the game… but it made me wiser

Hey Beauties,

*Before I start off with my dating and men rant, if you listened to my previous post it will all seem a tad clearer.

Yes you all read that title right, it’s simply the one lyric in Taylor Swifts “Blank Space” that i can relate to, actually that whole song should be my theme song whenever i walk into a room. Actually scratch that her whole album 1989 should just starting playing wherever I go.

From my last post about my Tinder “Hookup Heartbreak” which i hope you all enjoyed listening to, and believe it or not everything i said was true, that guy with all of his magical qualities  left me heartbroken and yes it sucked and it still does sadly because somehow he still has a hold over me. I guess there’s apart of me that still has hope, but I know at the end of the day he’s gone. And you know what they say “Let something or someone go and if they come back, it was meant to be. If they don’t they weren’t yours in the first place.”

To summarize my dating life thus far > It’s almost as if I have the words “Come at me I love players and getting played” tattooed to my face. I don’t just to be clear.  They seem to gravitate toward me, and with in mind last year I was very naive, maybe almost desperate, and a tad bit lonely.

With all that being said, I’ve always been told that I come off as a “Bitch”, “Too Picky”, Too Quiet” etc. in daily life and especially in the dating world. Maybe I’m picky because I have standards, maybe I’m a bitch because I’ve been played too many times and maybe I’m quiet because id rather listen than speak.

At the end of the day dealing with all the players and the new-found word “Fuck boys” has taught me to not only be a bitch but to be a wiser bitch, something my Oma told me when I was really irritated one day. “It’s not about being the bigger bitch it’s about being the wiser bitch”

With all the mind games and tricks going on these days, it’s almost impossible to find “The one” so we resort to using online dating which coming from experience is the most useless crap ever. Don’t do it. I had tinder 3 times before I told myself that this was useless and th guys were just looking for a good time. Have enough respect for yourself to let the online dating go, become wiser and realize that childish games are not ok.

Anyway what I’m trying to say is that in todays dating world you have to learn to play the game but in a wise manner and thats what I’ve learned . You have to just go on with your life and let it happen. Don’t plan.

Because of all this I’m no longer naive lonely desperate I’m happy and that’s what matters. As long as you make yourself happy, because quite honestly and i had to learn the hard way someone else will in no way make your life any better if you’re not happy to start off with. You cannot combine two problems and hope to make a fix.

This week I’m also going to be posting a video what will it be? A rant about dating perhaps or a make tutorial or both who knows actually haha.

Anyway that’s all for today and later I’ll be posting what this week’s tune of the week is.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

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I can’t believe I’ve missed two days part 2: Stop being Fake, Just be Real

Hey all,

So this is part two of my missed day series haha *laughs*

When it comes to drama, i am the master of it. Somehow drama always tends to find its way near me and honestly id rather it not. When i was younger picking the side of the most right friend in the fight was cool. i figured it was normal to “pick sides” but now that I’m much older ok “young woman” drama is dare i say useless?

I mean what are you accomplishing by being fake to someone, causing sad drama, where its not even needed. I often laugh at the drama that finds me because its just so ridiculous. I guess you could say that i have a very “care free” attitude and just go with the flow. why on earth would i make myself try or do anything i don’t want, thats simply just going to make me miserable and everyone else around me unhappy. Thats exactly what drama does, it causes tension.

When i was in high school.. ah yes the dreaded drama filled high school days weren’t they the best? *laughs* anyway back to business in high school drama never happened until the glorious grades 11-12which are supposed to be the best years ever.. they were and they weren’t. I dropped a friend those years only to reconnect with her this year yes 2015, thats 2 years without really speaking due to a her then current boyfriend because he was an idiot and didn’t like my opinion . she chose him over the one who stayed up for hours on end on the phone with her. But we put the past behind us and are now talking once again which is nice, sometimes you gotta let things go and if they come back it means it was yours all along.

Grade 12 was a good year in the end, i became good friends with the boy i once liked and confessed to over Facebook the summer before yea that story is a long one awaiting for another day.

In the end during my high school i was a very introverted person, but the drama with my friends boyfriend turned me into a bitch, and by bitch i mean someone who speaks their mind without a care. I became the intimating chick that no guy except for my one friend (the guy i used to like lets call him (Leo)) and my other friend  which is now one of my best friend boyfriend. And thus lead to the chronic bitchface. dun dun dun..

Now that w’eve cleared as to how i even turned from a shy girl to an intimidating girl, lets face the fact of fake people. I’ve never been a fan, i believe if you hate, dislike, loathe, want to throw a chair at a person, you should tell them to their face and honestly it’s not that hard. What exactly are you accomplishing by bitching about it in a circle of closed minded friends? nothing thats what your accomplishing. What you’re doing is proving to others that your life is so pathetic that you must look upon someone else life and put them down. I mean are you that bored?  just say it in the open, make it known .. move on. cut the tension. Be REAL.

Noone should really hate anyone being nice and real saves so much headache please click the link to (iisuperwomanii) video on “lame things people should stop doing”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKypOmBCLWQ&list=PLuBXqtS2jaLPopv899QwFphiirmD_XWdq&index=7

sadly im guilty of a few things here haha aren’t we all?

Anyway in the end, just be real with people, stop hiding behind a screen and whispers and say what you want to say. Be real, nice and stay awesome. Make sure to Love you and others will to.

Thats all for now beauties.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie