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My standards aren’t high, you’re just not my perfect

Hey Beauties,

So today I decided to do another podcast, I actually love doing these.

“I actually don’t think my standards are high at all, the world as has come to a sad, sad place where everyone just settles.”

https://soundcloud.com/dayna-marie-forderer/my-perfect-man

I’m current reading Minday Kaling’s book called ” Is everyone hanging out without me? (and other concerns)” and I finally got to the chapter of boys and romance  where I found my newest most favourite piece advice to ever give a man.

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This speaks to me a lot, look I love when a guy gets a little jealous or over protective it shows he cares and it brings off this “She’s my woman” kind of vibe which I find incredibly sexy.

Finding this quote brought on the idea of doing a write-up on My perfect Man especially with everyone always asking me what my type is or telling me that I’m too picky, please I have standards and this si why I think none of them are high at all.

I hope you all enjoy listening 🙂

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

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I’m Real, Positive and ready to go

Hey Beauties,

Lately I’ve been posting a lot about dating and my previous experience that’s ended in heartbreak which ties in with today’s post.

I’m going to share myself, yes kids I AM REAL haha. Not that you all thought I wasn’t but hey why not post a video that’s  both kind of funny and positive?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4WHjiNCpPc

Basically what I’m trying to get across here is that Being an all around positive person will get you further than being negative. Trust me I’ve been that negative Nelly and it wasn’t pleasant for anyone. From all the previous players I’ve dealt with, its taught me to be a better more positive person, learning that at the end of the day the only person who will love you endlessly is yourself. That may sound vain or superficial but its the truth at least to me.

I honestly feel like in today’s society a lot of people are negative why? because they resort to online dating, hiding behind screens and fat/ skinny shaming people they don’t even know.

Am i even making sense right now?

Positive body image, mind, soul and dating life all comes from within. Start off with making yourself happy and believe me DO NOT change yourself for anyone, it never works and while you’re at it DO NOT try to change anyone either. People only change if they want to, not if someone offers to do it for them.

To find that perfect person look no further than the mirror, because that’s the person you have to see everyday in and out through thick and thin. They are the ones who cry with you when sad and watch endless movies with. Love that person first, before anyone else and I promise another person who will almost be like the “cherry on top” will come along.

I’ll let what I said in the video speak for itself.

#PositiveVibes2015

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Plus Size Model: Ashley Graham thanks to Google Images

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

‘Cause you know I love the players, And you love the game… but it made me wiser

Hey Beauties,

*Before I start off with my dating and men rant, if you listened to my previous post it will all seem a tad clearer.

Yes you all read that title right, it’s simply the one lyric in Taylor Swifts “Blank Space” that i can relate to, actually that whole song should be my theme song whenever i walk into a room. Actually scratch that her whole album 1989 should just starting playing wherever I go.

From my last post about my Tinder “Hookup Heartbreak” which i hope you all enjoyed listening to, and believe it or not everything i said was true, that guy with all of his magical qualities  left me heartbroken and yes it sucked and it still does sadly because somehow he still has a hold over me. I guess there’s apart of me that still has hope, but I know at the end of the day he’s gone. And you know what they say “Let something or someone go and if they come back, it was meant to be. If they don’t they weren’t yours in the first place.”

To summarize my dating life thus far > It’s almost as if I have the words “Come at me I love players and getting played” tattooed to my face. I don’t just to be clear.  They seem to gravitate toward me, and with in mind last year I was very naive, maybe almost desperate, and a tad bit lonely.

With all that being said, I’ve always been told that I come off as a “Bitch”, “Too Picky”, Too Quiet” etc. in daily life and especially in the dating world. Maybe I’m picky because I have standards, maybe I’m a bitch because I’ve been played too many times and maybe I’m quiet because id rather listen than speak.

At the end of the day dealing with all the players and the new-found word “Fuck boys” has taught me to not only be a bitch but to be a wiser bitch, something my Oma told me when I was really irritated one day. “It’s not about being the bigger bitch it’s about being the wiser bitch”

With all the mind games and tricks going on these days, it’s almost impossible to find “The one” so we resort to using online dating which coming from experience is the most useless crap ever. Don’t do it. I had tinder 3 times before I told myself that this was useless and th guys were just looking for a good time. Have enough respect for yourself to let the online dating go, become wiser and realize that childish games are not ok.

Anyway what I’m trying to say is that in todays dating world you have to learn to play the game but in a wise manner and thats what I’ve learned . You have to just go on with your life and let it happen. Don’t plan.

Because of all this I’m no longer naive lonely desperate I’m happy and that’s what matters. As long as you make yourself happy, because quite honestly and i had to learn the hard way someone else will in no way make your life any better if you’re not happy to start off with. You cannot combine two problems and hope to make a fix.

This week I’m also going to be posting a video what will it be? A rant about dating perhaps or a make tutorial or both who knows actually haha.

Anyway that’s all for today and later I’ll be posting what this week’s tune of the week is.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie