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My Perfect Man : Written Edition

Hey Beauties,

Yesterrday i posted a podcast of “My perfect Man”, if you haven’t already gone and listened to it go on over and take a boo. However i decided to post the written version as well just incase some people don’t feel like listening to my voice for 6 minutes.

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I actually don’t think my standards are high at all, the world as has come to sad, sad place where everyone just settles.That’s not for me. I wont settle until my perfect man comes along to me.

I’ve always been a hopeless romantic; I think the first time was when I watched titanic way back when I was like 9 years old. I know crazy right? To think a nine-year-old thought of romance, but I did from then on I would read romance novels and watch romance movies.

Which leads me to now.

Almost 20 and the hopeless romantic still lives within hoping that perfect someone will bump me on the street or ask what book I’m reading at a cute coffee shop, just like in the movies.

I’m not saying my next date will lead to the one, no but one-night stands aren’t my style, and I can’t just justify going on a date with a any guy just because.

Hopefully, my relationship when it does come will grow with any guy who’s worth the investment of my time. Which sadly no man I’ve met stays past the first date, they invest their time for one night, and everything goes swell. Then BAM. Its ghost town.

Dare I say I’ve never made it to the second date with anyone?

My friends and family continuously will tell me, “You don’t need to look for someone perfect. You just need to someone who will give you some intimacy and not call you back tomorrow.”

Or the big one “YOURE TO PICKY”

I disagree. Look the guy doesn’t have to be perfect, but he has to be perfect for me. And I’m not picky at all; I just have self-respect and standards, which over time everyone, deemed as unacceptable.

I bet you’re all wondering wow this chick has never even made it to the second date? Whoa that’s crazy that’s ratchet. Its not. Look what I’ve came to realize is that men today cant handle strong woman, ok there’s some but not many around me. They run away scared.

And sorry but I’m not into chasing people especially men around the planet just for some affection, my perfect man is going to give me affection when I don’t even ask for it.

My perfect man yes man not boy because boys have to learn respect for women.

My perfect man won’t hesitate about anything; he’ll keep it straight and to the point always even though he knows sometimes that may hurt me. From what I’ve learned is that if your partner can’t tell you when you’re being a bitch and you cant tell them when their being a complete dick your relationship isn’t strong at all.

My perfect man will respect me enough to give me girl time and I’ll do the same for him wit his Bro time. It’s only fair and honestly space is good.

My perfect man will understand how lucky he truly is, he wont play these games and the quote “you don’t know what you’ve got till its not gone” wont come into play because he should know what he has.

My perfect man is mature enough to face commitment. Look I’m not asking for marriage, kids and sweet little home in Alabama. No what I’m asking for is commitment to me and to the relationship. If you’re going to cheat break up with me or be single. It’s that simple.

My perfect man will understand how much he means to me without having to ask. He should know and if doesn’t then clearly he’s not invested enough or lacks trust.

My perfect man, dare I say will be afraid of losing me. You know like those moments in movies where the girl will leave and the boy is heartbroken and goes crazy until she speaks to him again. Yeah that’s what I want. I get it you’re a man, you don’t cry but lets be real here, if you’re upset when your Xbox dies you better be upset when I fucking leave, if they don’t get upset well truly the relationship wasn’t what I thought.

My perfect will have good hygiene. If I have to shave my legs and whatever else you do as well.

My perfect man will live for adventure. Not saying we have to go hiking or backpacking across Europe this very second. What I’m saying is that I want someone who is willing to get ice cream at 3am just to sit up and watch movies with me.

My perfect man will be a bad boy at heart. Sorry I love the good guys but every guy has a bit of bad boy in them. There my weakness I like the leather jackets the motorbikes, the man bun the tattoos sue me.

My perfect man will have a smile that love. I’m big on smiles and the whole face in general. Ok? Sometimes it’s about the looks.

My perfect will enjoy working out and hitting the gym or come running with me. I like guys who want to live a nice healthy lifestyle sue me. But don’t make the gym your entire life.

My perfect man will like to cook. Hey I get it, its not everyone’s forte but my perfect guy yes he’ll enjoy the act of cooking and eating.

My perfect man Wont be afraid to go after what he wants.

I always get asked, “What’s your type?”

That’s my type the guy who isn’t afraid to go after what he wants in life.

And finally my perfect man will be happy, he’ll want to make me happy the relationship a happy environment. I get it all couples fight here and there but that’s not what the whole relationship should or what you always talk about to girl friends at brunch.

You should always want to talk positive of your significant other. Always.

SO in the end I don’t think my standards are high at all. Sure I may have never been in a solid relationship before which get thrown in face a lot. But that’s doesn’t mean I know any less. In fact sometimes I think I know more than my friends are in them, because I’ve seen all what happens and know exactly what I want.

Don’t settle and this is for both women and men. STOP settling go after what you truly want, not what just looks good.

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Have a fabulous Sunday and a great week, i’ll try to post something this week but i have two photoshoots, homework and short film I’m filing super excited!

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

My standards aren’t high, you’re just not my perfect

Hey Beauties,

So today I decided to do another podcast, I actually love doing these.

“I actually don’t think my standards are high at all, the world as has come to a sad, sad place where everyone just settles.”

https://soundcloud.com/dayna-marie-forderer/my-perfect-man

I’m current reading Minday Kaling’s book called ” Is everyone hanging out without me? (and other concerns)” and I finally got to the chapter of boys and romance  where I found my newest most favourite piece advice to ever give a man.

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This speaks to me a lot, look I love when a guy gets a little jealous or over protective it shows he cares and it brings off this “She’s my woman” kind of vibe which I find incredibly sexy.

Finding this quote brought on the idea of doing a write-up on My perfect Man especially with everyone always asking me what my type is or telling me that I’m too picky, please I have standards and this si why I think none of them are high at all.

I hope you all enjoy listening 🙂

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

‘Cause you know I love the players, And you love the game… but it made me wiser

Hey Beauties,

*Before I start off with my dating and men rant, if you listened to my previous post it will all seem a tad clearer.

Yes you all read that title right, it’s simply the one lyric in Taylor Swifts “Blank Space” that i can relate to, actually that whole song should be my theme song whenever i walk into a room. Actually scratch that her whole album 1989 should just starting playing wherever I go.

From my last post about my Tinder “Hookup Heartbreak” which i hope you all enjoyed listening to, and believe it or not everything i said was true, that guy with all of his magical qualities  left me heartbroken and yes it sucked and it still does sadly because somehow he still has a hold over me. I guess there’s apart of me that still has hope, but I know at the end of the day he’s gone. And you know what they say “Let something or someone go and if they come back, it was meant to be. If they don’t they weren’t yours in the first place.”

To summarize my dating life thus far > It’s almost as if I have the words “Come at me I love players and getting played” tattooed to my face. I don’t just to be clear.  They seem to gravitate toward me, and with in mind last year I was very naive, maybe almost desperate, and a tad bit lonely.

With all that being said, I’ve always been told that I come off as a “Bitch”, “Too Picky”, Too Quiet” etc. in daily life and especially in the dating world. Maybe I’m picky because I have standards, maybe I’m a bitch because I’ve been played too many times and maybe I’m quiet because id rather listen than speak.

At the end of the day dealing with all the players and the new-found word “Fuck boys” has taught me to not only be a bitch but to be a wiser bitch, something my Oma told me when I was really irritated one day. “It’s not about being the bigger bitch it’s about being the wiser bitch”

With all the mind games and tricks going on these days, it’s almost impossible to find “The one” so we resort to using online dating which coming from experience is the most useless crap ever. Don’t do it. I had tinder 3 times before I told myself that this was useless and th guys were just looking for a good time. Have enough respect for yourself to let the online dating go, become wiser and realize that childish games are not ok.

Anyway what I’m trying to say is that in todays dating world you have to learn to play the game but in a wise manner and thats what I’ve learned . You have to just go on with your life and let it happen. Don’t plan.

Because of all this I’m no longer naive lonely desperate I’m happy and that’s what matters. As long as you make yourself happy, because quite honestly and i had to learn the hard way someone else will in no way make your life any better if you’re not happy to start off with. You cannot combine two problems and hope to make a fix.

This week I’m also going to be posting a video what will it be? A rant about dating perhaps or a make tutorial or both who knows actually haha.

Anyway that’s all for today and later I’ll be posting what this week’s tune of the week is.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

My Tinder experience- Hook Up Heartbreak

Hey Beauties, so as promised this was my Tinder experience and My very first Hook-Up heartbreak i know most of us have dealt with these in the past and its time to face the facts.

https://soundcloud.com/dayna-marie-forderer/hookupheartbreak-forderer

I hope you all enjoy listening and feedback is always welcomed.

Thanks so much and have an amazing day.

P.s I just got my cartilage pierced and now my ear is screaming at me haha.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

Hello Post Summer body

Hey Beauties,

So sorry I haven’t updated the blog in the last two weeks, I’ve been super busy with assignments and then I had my march break haha which consisted of eating, Netflixing The 100 (which is an awesome show and you all should get on it) ;). I worked and I’m currently on my 7th week of fitness, in which I also went out and bought new hand weights. I also saw 50 Shades of Grey *laughs*

As you all know yesterday was Motivational Monday here on the blog and it’s also starting to feel like spring here in Canada. Thank god because I’m so over the winter blues. The other day I went out for a run just to find that there was still an enormous amount of snow up in the hiking trails. However now that it’s all starting to melt, they should clear up in no time which gets me super pumped. I love working out outside, feeling the fresh air on my face and just being surrounded my something other than my bedroom walls.

I recently came across a video, that consisted of just your normal everyday, typical women working out. Unlike most commercials we all see dealing with fitness these women weren’t already in shape per say but just starting out. I loved watching it because it allows young women much like myself to see that no one starts out perfect looking. You have to WORK FOR IT!.  Dedication is key, you want to have that drive to put everything you have into it or you’ll gain nothing. Trust me Weight for myself has always been an issue and when I first starting dieting heavily my last year of high school, all I did was lose weight because all I was doing was cardio. Now all I seem to be doing is weight training, which is actually a lot more beneficial for you.

Weight training allows you to burn fat, while also gaining muscle, do a bit of cardio, eat right and you’re set. I’m a huge unbeliever of diet pills, or fast hacks those never work and you’ll most likely gain twice the weight you lost right back. Sad but true. Now I’m not staying that if you don’t workout or eat healthy you’re a bad person, no what I’m saying is that eating right and working out allows you to become a better version of yourself. I know it’s hard and difficult and many tears will be shed but it’s worth it. Its worth knowing that once you’re in your 30’s or 40’s you’ll still be healthy.

To end on a positive note watch the video below, it’s finally a fitness motivational commercial, that you’d want to show your daughter, friends, mother. It encourages women to not strive for perfection, because let’s be real no one is perfect. At the end of the day all you can do is try your best and give it your all and I promise something amazing will come of it.

P.s I’m also super obsessed with the song in the video – Get your freak on by Missy Elliott ❤

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=675732429202831&pnref=story

Fitness little quote I like to go by:

4 weeks You start noticing,  8 weeks friends and family start noticing, 12 weeks the world

Skin Care Hacks for the cheap Girl

Hey all,

All my life my skin has been  perfect , no flaws, nothing everything has always been great .. hahah *laughs in corner*.

Lets be real no woman, especially in their puberty years ever had nice skin, it takes years of changing products, creams and soaps to find your perfect match and even then it’s still no the one for you. For me I’ve tried everything from clean and clear, to very expensive products I don’t even remember the names of.

On the internet there are tons of remedies you can do to get better, healthier looking skin here are some of the things i do to make my skin look nice and bright, now at the age of 19.

My facial cleanser that I use nightly is “St.Ives,naturally clear blemish and black head apricot scrub” I buy this at shopper’s drug mart for about $12 and it lasts for a long time! 

Step one: remove any makeup with makeup remover and wash cloth

Step two: rinse face throughly with warm water to open pores up

Step three: get just over a pea sized amount of product onto finger taps and rub into skin in light circular motions

Step four: Rinse product off thoroughly with cold water to close pores and seal your natural oils

Step five: Pat try with towel or face towel

Every other product I use is most likely in your home as we speak, and I only use them for major breakouts.

1. Honey-this allows blemishes to come to a head making them softer to pop

2. toothpaste- can dry blemishes, prevents from further damage to skin

3. aloe vera Gel/plant-  I use this as my nightly moisturizer, this can help even out skin tone and helps prevent breakouts. Gel i buy from shopper’s drug mart the life brand works the exact same for about $10 might be more or less, because i bought mine a while ago.

4. fresh lemon juice-  since lemons are acidic, they really dry your skin so be careful with this one, but it works especially when you have white heads *runaway* hate those things, but we all get them.

So thats basically everything i use on my face, of course there are many more hacks and tricks which i will soon learn in time, but for now since I’m a cheapo and in college on a budget this is what works for me haha.

Thats all for today beauties and i hope you all enjoy the weekend.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie

Welcome to Motivational Monday

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hey all,

So today is Monday and from my “updates” post a few days ago that can only mean one thing… It’s Motivational Monday. This is segment that I’ll be doing every Monday, where I share motivational posts, quotes, fitness tips and tricks, clean eating hacks because let’s be real I love my carbs and sugar but unfortunately my waistline doesn’t, and I’ll be sharing my weightless journey how my friends and family helped along the way, where i am to date and how I’m improving.

Heath is a big thing these days, and in my mind it’s not all about being skinny, it’s about being healthy and feeling good within your own skin my motto is this “Love your body” yes that’s right love it, own it and embrace it because it’s the only one you have and the perk is you can change anything you on it if you work hard enough and no i am not telling all of you who don’t like your nose to go get plastic surgery what I’m telling you is that weightless/ weight gain can be accomplished no matter how lazy you are, you just have to want it bad enough. A good friend of mine introduced me to this quote while I was on my own fitness journey and it has stuck with me thus far.

” How bad you want something is meaningless, it’s pointless if how bad you’re willing to work for the thing you want isn’t 10x more intense as how bad you want it “- LOS

Basically what the quote is telling us is that, nothing you want in life comes easy and if you’re not willing to work for it then clearly you don’t want it bad enough it can go for anything in life really, career, friendships, love relationships, anything.

With that quote in mind, keep your heads high and go workout, cook a nice healthy meal, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you can do it!

I did arms and back today , man was that a struggle, considering I’ve decided to lift heavier, and beauties the bright side is the heavier you  lift, the better your arms and ass will look and don’t we all want that haha.

Anyway beauties that’s all for today, what are your workout routines, pep talks and stories send me a message on Facebook, tweet me or e-mail.

xoxo

Dayna-Marie