My Perfect Man : Written Edition
Hey Beauties,
Yesterrday i posted a podcast of “My perfect Man”, if you haven’t already gone and listened to it go on over and take a boo. However i decided to post the written version as well just incase some people don’t feel like listening to my voice for 6 minutes.
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I actually don’t think my standards are high at all, the world as has come to sad, sad place where everyone just settles.That’s not for me. I wont settle until my perfect man comes along to me.
I’ve always been a hopeless romantic; I think the first time was when I watched titanic way back when I was like 9 years old. I know crazy right? To think a nine-year-old thought of romance, but I did from then on I would read romance novels and watch romance movies.
Which leads me to now.
Almost 20 and the hopeless romantic still lives within hoping that perfect someone will bump me on the street or ask what book I’m reading at a cute coffee shop, just like in the movies.
I’m not saying my next date will lead to the one, no but one-night stands aren’t my style, and I can’t just justify going on a date with a any guy just because.
Hopefully, my relationship when it does come will grow with any guy who’s worth the investment of my time. Which sadly no man I’ve met stays past the first date, they invest their time for one night, and everything goes swell. Then BAM. Its ghost town.
Dare I say I’ve never made it to the second date with anyone?
My friends and family continuously will tell me, “You don’t need to look for someone perfect. You just need to someone who will give you some intimacy and not call you back tomorrow.”
Or the big one “YOURE TO PICKY”
I disagree. Look the guy doesn’t have to be perfect, but he has to be perfect for me. And I’m not picky at all; I just have self-respect and standards, which over time everyone, deemed as unacceptable.
I bet you’re all wondering wow this chick has never even made it to the second date? Whoa that’s crazy that’s ratchet. Its not. Look what I’ve came to realize is that men today cant handle strong woman, ok there’s some but not many around me. They run away scared.
And sorry but I’m not into chasing people especially men around the planet just for some affection, my perfect man is going to give me affection when I don’t even ask for it.
My perfect man yes man not boy because boys have to learn respect for women.
My perfect man won’t hesitate about anything; he’ll keep it straight and to the point always even though he knows sometimes that may hurt me. From what I’ve learned is that if your partner can’t tell you when you’re being a bitch and you cant tell them when their being a complete dick your relationship isn’t strong at all.
My perfect man will respect me enough to give me girl time and I’ll do the same for him wit his Bro time. It’s only fair and honestly space is good.
My perfect man will understand how lucky he truly is, he wont play these games and the quote “you don’t know what you’ve got till its not gone” wont come into play because he should know what he has.
My perfect man is mature enough to face commitment. Look I’m not asking for marriage, kids and sweet little home in Alabama. No what I’m asking for is commitment to me and to the relationship. If you’re going to cheat break up with me or be single. It’s that simple.
My perfect man will understand how much he means to me without having to ask. He should know and if doesn’t then clearly he’s not invested enough or lacks trust.
My perfect man, dare I say will be afraid of losing me. You know like those moments in movies where the girl will leave and the boy is heartbroken and goes crazy until she speaks to him again. Yeah that’s what I want. I get it you’re a man, you don’t cry but lets be real here, if you’re upset when your Xbox dies you better be upset when I fucking leave, if they don’t get upset well truly the relationship wasn’t what I thought.
My perfect will have good hygiene. If I have to shave my legs and whatever else you do as well.
My perfect man will live for adventure. Not saying we have to go hiking or backpacking across Europe this very second. What I’m saying is that I want someone who is willing to get ice cream at 3am just to sit up and watch movies with me.
My perfect man will be a bad boy at heart. Sorry I love the good guys but every guy has a bit of bad boy in them. There my weakness I like the leather jackets the motorbikes, the man bun the tattoos sue me.
My perfect man will have a smile that love. I’m big on smiles and the whole face in general. Ok? Sometimes it’s about the looks.
My perfect will enjoy working out and hitting the gym or come running with me. I like guys who want to live a nice healthy lifestyle sue me. But don’t make the gym your entire life.
My perfect man will like to cook. Hey I get it, its not everyone’s forte but my perfect guy yes he’ll enjoy the act of cooking and eating.
My perfect man Wont be afraid to go after what he wants.
I always get asked, “What’s your type?”
That’s my type the guy who isn’t afraid to go after what he wants in life.
And finally my perfect man will be happy, he’ll want to make me happy the relationship a happy environment. I get it all couples fight here and there but that’s not what the whole relationship should or what you always talk about to girl friends at brunch.
You should always want to talk positive of your significant other. Always.
SO in the end I don’t think my standards are high at all. Sure I may have never been in a solid relationship before which get thrown in face a lot. But that’s doesn’t mean I know any less. In fact sometimes I think I know more than my friends are in them, because I’ve seen all what happens and know exactly what I want.
Don’t settle and this is for both women and men. STOP settling go after what you truly want, not what just looks good.
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Have a fabulous Sunday and a great week, i’ll try to post something this week but i have two photoshoots, homework and short film I’m filing super excited!
xoxo
Dayna-Marie
My standards aren’t high, you’re just not my perfect
Hey Beauties,
So today I decided to do another podcast, I actually love doing these.
“I actually don’t think my standards are high at all, the world as has come to a sad, sad place where everyone just settles.”
https://soundcloud.com/dayna-marie-forderer/my-perfect-man
I’m current reading Minday Kaling’s book called ” Is everyone hanging out without me? (and other concerns)” and I finally got to the chapter of boys and romance where I found my newest most favourite piece advice to ever give a man.
This speaks to me a lot, look I love when a guy gets a little jealous or over protective it shows he cares and it brings off this “She’s my woman” kind of vibe which I find incredibly sexy.
Finding this quote brought on the idea of doing a write-up on My perfect Man especially with everyone always asking me what my type is or telling me that I’m too picky, please I have standards and this si why I think none of them are high at all.
I hope you all enjoy listening 🙂
xoxo
Dayna-Marie
I’m Real, Positive and ready to go
Hey Beauties,
Lately I’ve been posting a lot about dating and my previous experience that’s ended in heartbreak which ties in with today’s post.
I’m going to share myself, yes kids I AM REAL haha. Not that you all thought I wasn’t but hey why not post a video that’s both kind of funny and positive?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4WHjiNCpPc
Basically what I’m trying to get across here is that Being an all around positive person will get you further than being negative. Trust me I’ve been that negative Nelly and it wasn’t pleasant for anyone. From all the previous players I’ve dealt with, its taught me to be a better more positive person, learning that at the end of the day the only person who will love you endlessly is yourself. That may sound vain or superficial but its the truth at least to me.
I honestly feel like in today’s society a lot of people are negative why? because they resort to online dating, hiding behind screens and fat/ skinny shaming people they don’t even know.
Am i even making sense right now?
Positive body image, mind, soul and dating life all comes from within. Start off with making yourself happy and believe me DO NOT change yourself for anyone, it never works and while you’re at it DO NOT try to change anyone either. People only change if they want to, not if someone offers to do it for them.
To find that perfect person look no further than the mirror, because that’s the person you have to see everyday in and out through thick and thin. They are the ones who cry with you when sad and watch endless movies with. Love that person first, before anyone else and I promise another person who will almost be like the “cherry on top” will come along.
I’ll let what I said in the video speak for itself.
#PositiveVibes2015
Plus Size Model: Ashley Graham thanks to Google Images
xoxo
Dayna-Marie
‘Cause you know I love the players, And you love the game… but it made me wiser
Hey Beauties,
*Before I start off with my dating and men rant, if you listened to my previous post it will all seem a tad clearer.
Yes you all read that title right, it’s simply the one lyric in Taylor Swifts “Blank Space” that i can relate to, actually that whole song should be my theme song whenever i walk into a room. Actually scratch that her whole album 1989 should just starting playing wherever I go.
From my last post about my Tinder “Hookup Heartbreak” which i hope you all enjoyed listening to, and believe it or not everything i said was true, that guy with all of his magical qualities left me heartbroken and yes it sucked and it still does sadly because somehow he still has a hold over me. I guess there’s apart of me that still has hope, but I know at the end of the day he’s gone. And you know what they say “Let something or someone go and if they come back, it was meant to be. If they don’t they weren’t yours in the first place.”
To summarize my dating life thus far > It’s almost as if I have the words “Come at me I love players and getting played” tattooed to my face. I don’t just to be clear. They seem to gravitate toward me, and with in mind last year I was very naive, maybe almost desperate, and a tad bit lonely.
With all that being said, I’ve always been told that I come off as a “Bitch”, “Too Picky”, Too Quiet” etc. in daily life and especially in the dating world. Maybe I’m picky because I have standards, maybe I’m a bitch because I’ve been played too many times and maybe I’m quiet because id rather listen than speak.
At the end of the day dealing with all the players and the new-found word “Fuck boys” has taught me to not only be a bitch but to be a wiser bitch, something my Oma told me when I was really irritated one day. “It’s not about being the bigger bitch it’s about being the wiser bitch”
With all the mind games and tricks going on these days, it’s almost impossible to find “The one” so we resort to using online dating which coming from experience is the most useless crap ever. Don’t do it. I had tinder 3 times before I told myself that this was useless and th guys were just looking for a good time. Have enough respect for yourself to let the online dating go, become wiser and realize that childish games are not ok.
Anyway what I’m trying to say is that in todays dating world you have to learn to play the game but in a wise manner and thats what I’ve learned . You have to just go on with your life and let it happen. Don’t plan.
Because of all this I’m no longer naive lonely desperate I’m happy and that’s what matters. As long as you make yourself happy, because quite honestly and i had to learn the hard way someone else will in no way make your life any better if you’re not happy to start off with. You cannot combine two problems and hope to make a fix.
This week I’m also going to be posting a video what will it be? A rant about dating perhaps or a make tutorial or both who knows actually haha.
Anyway that’s all for today and later I’ll be posting what this week’s tune of the week is.
xoxo
Dayna-Marie
My Tinder experience- Hook Up Heartbreak
Hey Beauties, so as promised this was my Tinder experience and My very first Hook-Up heartbreak i know most of us have dealt with these in the past and its time to face the facts.
https://soundcloud.com/dayna-marie-forderer/hookupheartbreak-forderer
I hope you all enjoy listening and feedback is always welcomed.
Thanks so much and have an amazing day.
P.s I just got my cartilage pierced and now my ear is screaming at me haha.
xoxo
Dayna-Marie
An Open Letter To Every Boy Who “Doesn’t Want A Relationship Right Now”
Absolutely love this especially with my next post consisting of my Tinder experience oh yes ladies you read that right Tinder we all have one or so i did.
Hello Post Summer body
Hey Beauties,
So sorry I haven’t updated the blog in the last two weeks, I’ve been super busy with assignments and then I had my march break haha which consisted of eating, Netflixing The 100 (which is an awesome show and you all should get on it) ;). I worked and I’m currently on my 7th week of fitness, in which I also went out and bought new hand weights. I also saw 50 Shades of Grey *laughs*
As you all know yesterday was Motivational Monday here on the blog and it’s also starting to feel like spring here in Canada. Thank god because I’m so over the winter blues. The other day I went out for a run just to find that there was still an enormous amount of snow up in the hiking trails. However now that it’s all starting to melt, they should clear up in no time which gets me super pumped. I love working out outside, feeling the fresh air on my face and just being surrounded my something other than my bedroom walls.
I recently came across a video, that consisted of just your normal everyday, typical women working out. Unlike most commercials we all see dealing with fitness these women weren’t already in shape per say but just starting out. I loved watching it because it allows young women much like myself to see that no one starts out perfect looking. You have to WORK FOR IT!. Dedication is key, you want to have that drive to put everything you have into it or you’ll gain nothing. Trust me Weight for myself has always been an issue and when I first starting dieting heavily my last year of high school, all I did was lose weight because all I was doing was cardio. Now all I seem to be doing is weight training, which is actually a lot more beneficial for you.
Weight training allows you to burn fat, while also gaining muscle, do a bit of cardio, eat right and you’re set. I’m a huge unbeliever of diet pills, or fast hacks those never work and you’ll most likely gain twice the weight you lost right back. Sad but true. Now I’m not staying that if you don’t workout or eat healthy you’re a bad person, no what I’m saying is that eating right and working out allows you to become a better version of yourself. I know it’s hard and difficult and many tears will be shed but it’s worth it. Its worth knowing that once you’re in your 30’s or 40’s you’ll still be healthy.
To end on a positive note watch the video below, it’s finally a fitness motivational commercial, that you’d want to show your daughter, friends, mother. It encourages women to not strive for perfection, because let’s be real no one is perfect. At the end of the day all you can do is try your best and give it your all and I promise something amazing will come of it.
P.s I’m also super obsessed with the song in the video – Get your freak on by Missy Elliott ❤
https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=675732429202831&pnref=story
Fitness little quote I like to go by:
4 weeks You start noticing, 8 weeks friends and family start noticing, 12 weeks the world
Skin Care Hacks for the cheap Girl
Hey all,
All my life my skin has been perfect , no flaws, nothing everything has always been great .. hahah *laughs in corner*.
Lets be real no woman, especially in their puberty years ever had nice skin, it takes years of changing products, creams and soaps to find your perfect match and even then it’s still no the one for you. For me I’ve tried everything from clean and clear, to very expensive products I don’t even remember the names of.
On the internet there are tons of remedies you can do to get better, healthier looking skin here are some of the things i do to make my skin look nice and bright, now at the age of 19.
My facial cleanser that I use nightly is “St.Ives,naturally clear blemish and black head apricot scrub” I buy this at shopper’s drug mart for about $12 and it lasts for a long time!
Step one: remove any makeup with makeup remover and wash cloth
Step two: rinse face throughly with warm water to open pores up
Step three: get just over a pea sized amount of product onto finger taps and rub into skin in light circular motions
Step four: Rinse product off thoroughly with cold water to close pores and seal your natural oils
Step five: Pat try with towel or face towel
Every other product I use is most likely in your home as we speak, and I only use them for major breakouts.
1. Honey-this allows blemishes to come to a head making them softer to pop
2. toothpaste- can dry blemishes, prevents from further damage to skin
3. aloe vera Gel/plant- I use this as my nightly moisturizer, this can help even out skin tone and helps prevent breakouts. Gel i buy from shopper’s drug mart the life brand works the exact same for about $10 might be more or less, because i bought mine a while ago.
4. fresh lemon juice- since lemons are acidic, they really dry your skin so be careful with this one, but it works especially when you have white heads *runaway* hate those things, but we all get them.
So thats basically everything i use on my face, of course there are many more hacks and tricks which i will soon learn in time, but for now since I’m a cheapo and in college on a budget this is what works for me haha.
Thats all for today beauties and i hope you all enjoy the weekend.
xoxo
Dayna-Marie
I can’t believe I’ve missed two days part 2: Stop being Fake, Just be Real
Hey all,
So this is part two of my missed day series haha *laughs*
When it comes to drama, i am the master of it. Somehow drama always tends to find its way near me and honestly id rather it not. When i was younger picking the side of the most right friend in the fight was cool. i figured it was normal to “pick sides” but now that I’m much older ok “young woman” drama is dare i say useless?
I mean what are you accomplishing by being fake to someone, causing sad drama, where its not even needed. I often laugh at the drama that finds me because its just so ridiculous. I guess you could say that i have a very “care free” attitude and just go with the flow. why on earth would i make myself try or do anything i don’t want, thats simply just going to make me miserable and everyone else around me unhappy. Thats exactly what drama does, it causes tension.
When i was in high school.. ah yes the dreaded drama filled high school days weren’t they the best? *laughs* anyway back to business in high school drama never happened until the glorious grades 11-12which are supposed to be the best years ever.. they were and they weren’t. I dropped a friend those years only to reconnect with her this year yes 2015, thats 2 years without really speaking due to a her then current boyfriend because he was an idiot and didn’t like my opinion . she chose him over the one who stayed up for hours on end on the phone with her. But we put the past behind us and are now talking once again which is nice, sometimes you gotta let things go and if they come back it means it was yours all along.
Grade 12 was a good year in the end, i became good friends with the boy i once liked and confessed to over Facebook the summer before yea that story is a long one awaiting for another day.
In the end during my high school i was a very introverted person, but the drama with my friends boyfriend turned me into a bitch, and by bitch i mean someone who speaks their mind without a care. I became the intimating chick that no guy except for my one friend (the guy i used to like lets call him (Leo)) and my other friend which is now one of my best friend boyfriend. And thus lead to the chronic bitchface. dun dun dun..
Now that w’eve cleared as to how i even turned from a shy girl to an intimidating girl, lets face the fact of fake people. I’ve never been a fan, i believe if you hate, dislike, loathe, want to throw a chair at a person, you should tell them to their face and honestly it’s not that hard. What exactly are you accomplishing by bitching about it in a circle of closed minded friends? nothing thats what your accomplishing. What you’re doing is proving to others that your life is so pathetic that you must look upon someone else life and put them down. I mean are you that bored? just say it in the open, make it known .. move on. cut the tension. Be REAL.
Noone should really hate anyone being nice and real saves so much headache please click the link to (iisuperwomanii) video on “lame things people should stop doing”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKypOmBCLWQ&list=PLuBXqtS2jaLPopv899QwFphiirmD_XWdq&index=7
sadly im guilty of a few things here haha aren’t we all?
Anyway in the end, just be real with people, stop hiding behind a screen and whispers and say what you want to say. Be real, nice and stay awesome. Make sure to Love you and others will to.
Thats all for now beauties.
xoxo
Dayna-Marie
An Eye into the Female World 